what happens when a mother-son relationship becomes based predominantly on money and material success? well, when those things are gone, i think what is left is nothing much. what you have is you wanting to call your son to come for dinner, cook a sumptuous spread for him, but yet not speak more than 4 sentences of superficial small talk, because the plug of which your relationship has been based on has been pulled out, and sucking the life out of that. im in no position to judge because im no better. its just so vital to not forget the simple things in life, when you love someone, its because of that person and that person alone, not because of what he has/owns or what he doesnt have/owns. i think this is why God ordained for wisdom to be worth far more than diamonds and rubies, because money is a lousy glue for relationships, money is a very very lousy god to worship for life, money is a very poor saviour, because it wasnt meant to save. wisdom instead shakes out all the human-ness out of that relationship, shakes out all that is shakable and leaves what truly matters standing. without which, the result is fear of speaking and offending that person, fear of stepping on the toes of a once successful son, now very much unsuccessful by those definitions. but maybe not too long ago that son was once the pride of your joy just simply because he was yours. nothing more, and certainly nothing less.